“I can’t stop snacking at night,” my client told me, frustrated. She assured me that this habit wasn’t about physical hunger, and that it didn’t matter how much she ate earlier in the day, or even how much she ate for dinner. It didn’t matter what dinner was, or what time she ate dinner, or even which snacks she kept in the house—every single night, approximately 20 minutes after finishing dinner, my client would find herself standing in front of the fridge or snack cupboard

Hi friend, Last week I wrote about quitting vaping, and how much more difficult and uncomfortable it’s been than I ever could have imagined. Today I want to explore something that has felt even stranger, harder to articulate, and deeply disorienting for me: Struggling to trust my own desire. Historically, I’ve understood desire as a crucial part of our individual map for personal fulfillment and thriving as humans, and I’ve built a lot of my work, and my life, around the id

Hi friend, Today I want to share an incredibly vulnerable, tender, and raw story with you—a story that actually feels super scary to share, both because it’s so deeply personal and emotional for me, and because it involves me doing something that is widely judged and stigmatized: Vaping. Yep. Sigh. This is going to be the story of how I got addicted to vaping, my absolute love affair with nicotine, and the hideously painful experience of quitting. (So if this is a topic you

They’re all getting work done to look the SAME. #TransparentTuesday Hi friend, Recently while watching a reality TV show, it took me nearly half the season before I was able to tell three out of the four female leads apart from each other. This is a bit embarrassing to admit, but this kind of thing happens to me all the time, and I do actually think I must have some kind of mild face blindness. (If I’m starting a new TV show or watching a movie, it generally takes me a li

Why everyone is starting to look the SAME. #TransparentTuesday

#TransparentTuesdays Why everyone is starting to look the SAME. Hi friend, “Why does everyone want to look the same?!” My friend recently asked this question while we were talking about the epidemic of Botox and fillers being used to “fix” the very same unique facial features that we as a culture once said gave a person “character,” and made them compelling and attractive. To be fair, we do actually know why people want to look like everyone else. People who conform to socie