Two clients. Two very different marriages. The same liberation. #TransparentTuesday Hi friend, Today I want to tell you—with their permission—the story of two women who came to me for body image coaching, and ended up with very different results. These two women had a lot in common—both identified with the Self-Objectifer Body Image Avatar, although they each had different “wings.” Both were married (to men). Both struggled with having a lower libido than he did, and a feeli

Men get excuses; women get extra work. The “Cornell 7,” feminist rage, and a case for decentering men. #TransparentTuesday Hi friend, The “Cornell 7” story has taken over my brain this last week, with my entire social media filled with news and responses, many of my clients needing to talk about what it’s bringing up for them, and my own ever-present feminist rage shifting back and forth between fury and despair about it. The allegations of unfathomable sexual violence, the m

What HRT taught me about fatigue, effort, and the limits of my own neutrality. #TransparentTuesday Hi friend, I’m not gonna lie, my thirties haven’t been easy. Between COVID, health and hormone issues, moving across the country and getting hit with a major depressive episode, tax and business drama, and navigating (then ending) two very difficult partnerships…I feel like I spent most of this decade putting out fires, recovering from putting out fires, and wondering if I would

…does that mean you SHOULD? #TransparentTuesday What If You Actually Want to Change Your Body? Hi friend, After last week’s podcast episode about GLP-1s sparked countless conversations with people about their own health goals, I keep thinking about what it means for people to have the option to change something now, that they previously didn’t have the option to change. In my field, we’ve known for a long time that diets don’t work, and there was previously zero reliable inte

I’ve been afraid to write about this! #TransparentTuesday Hi friend, So—kinda big reveal time—I’ve been on a GLP-1 for a little while now. And I really want to tell you about it. I’ve been very worried about writing this, because I’m so aware that GLP-1s are incredibly polarizing, and that it could be upsetting, triggering, or potentially harmful for some readers to read about my experience. After all, GLP-1s are marketed (and heralded) as a sort of magical “weight loss dru

I’m searching for my next big problem to solve. #TransparentTuesday Hi friend, I think I’m getting ready for a big business rebrand soon! For a handful of years now—more or less since my book was published—I’ve been feeling a persistent pull to evolve the direction of my work, my business, and my brand. It’s not that I necessarily want to move away from body image or body neutrality entirely (although I’m open to that). It’s more like I’ve allowed my work to become very wide

Purity culture just taught us it should be. #TransparentTuesday Hi friend, Hot take: sex isn’t “special.” Now hear me out, because I’m not telling you what sex is (or should be) for you. I’m just asking that together we examine and dismantle a bit of a sacred cow: the belief that sex is (or should be) special. Years ago, a client was telling me about an intimate experience in which she participated in certain sexual activities but drew the line at participating in others, an

When heartbreak distorts what we see in the mirror. {#TransparentTuesday} Hi friend, After 15 years of body neutrality work, body dysmorphia looks very different for me now, compared to how it used to look. These days it’s very rare for me to get hit with a dysmorphic episode. But when I do, I recognize it immediately for what it is and can quickly identify (and speak directly to) the little monster under the mask. Last week was one of those episodes—a week in which what I s

On relationships, creativity, and getting my own stories back. Hi friend, I recently decided to start writing and posting on Instagram again! It’s been a verrry long time since I posted regularly on social media… and even longer since I used it as a platform for sharing my own personal stories and musings. There are many layered reasons why I stopped sharing and posting like I used to, a big one being the shift that Instagram went through when TikTok skyrocketed in popularity

Why your aesthetic preferences aren't nearly as fixed (or accurate) as you think. Hi friend, Today I want to share a hot take: that your “aesthetic preferences” aren’t nearly as important (or accurate) as you think they are. I feel like people are constantly talking about—and often even defensive about— their personal preferences for both how they themselves like to look, and for what they find attractive in others. And while it’s absolutely normal and ok to have preferences